Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds may be a useful resource for your family. In their book, David Pollock and Ruth Van Reken address the process of transitioning from one place to another. The stages Pollock and Van Reken identify:
Involvement: You are settled and comfortable, feeling like you belong and can focus on your immediate relationships.
Leaving: When you learn that you are leaving a place, you begin loosening emotional ties and lean away from responsibilities you may have. You may feel anxious about leaving but also excited about moving.
Transition: This stage can be chaotic as you move from one place to another. You may be more self-centered during this stage.
Entering: Life is no longer chaotic. Now you are ready to begin life in your new place. You accept that you’re part of a new community.
Re-involvement: You finally feel like you are part of this new community.
Parents may also find Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes by William Bridges a useful resource to understand the experience too.
Since the transition process for your child begins when they know they will move to Korea or transfer to KIS, you can prepare them for a healthy closure and smoother start by helping your child build a RAFT. Again, from Pollock and Van Renek:
Reconciliation: When you learn you are leaving, help your child resolve any conflicts before leaving. This involves asking for forgiveness and forgiving others.
Affirmation: Acknowledge the influential people in your child’s life. Write notes or give gifts to friends, family, teachers, and neighbors you are leaving.
Farewell: It’s important for your child to say goodbye not only to people, but to places, pets, and other important things too. Take photographs to remember or think of other ways to honor your farewell.
Think Destination: Start to think about your next destination. Encourage your child to research their new home or school. Learning more about your new place can change stress into excitement!